People problem

Other people are just the wall in the wall in the maze. It is part of reality. The world doesn't care what you'd like , the world will give you what you deserve.

What I had like previously that doesn't work.
1. I want to show the world what I feel, so I appear genuine. This is a double edge sword.
- It is okay if you feel great everyday. But you aren't. If you feelings aren't good, you showed it to the world, the world will bite you back. If you don't like a person, you showed it to him, you get the idea.
-It will be good if you feel great that day, and you liked that person. You action and emotion will appear genuine.

Solution: when you are having a bad day, you don't like that person. You still have to smile and apply all the people skills. The world doesn't care what you'd like or feel inside, the world will give you what you deserve.

These people problem episode are gain from encountering reality or walls in the maze of life.
People problem episode.
1. Jealousy
Wenxhin favored by Yue Chuan. Chwan Long favored by WeeSzi, Yap. Siblings favored by parents. Victor being favored by Brian Yap.
Human have an innate desires to be liked. If you don't have the skills or effort to appeal to people. People will gravitate towards people they like.
Lesson: the world doesn't care what you like (to be loved) , the world will give you what you desire.

Why am I so angry ? These people change my self-belief that I am lovable. They provide evidence that I am not likable. Because if a crazy person don't like me, that's ok, because it doesn't show that I am not likable.

What I'd been doing:
I will usually react emotionally. Anger inside. Usually, I will avoid that person altogether. I lose touch with that person or shut him out from close friendship.

Solution:
Develop a knee jerk reaction to think why people are behaving like that. Is there anything I can improve? Accept that the other person can be more important, more likable that I am because they developed that skill better. I can achieve similar skill level over time if I provide the effort. Accept that people have different levels of friendship. Try to practice your people skills. Sometimes there is very little you can do at that time, because developing a relationship takes time.

In other words, the harsh reality is that you do not have the same level of people skill compared to the next person. So he is better liked than you are. The world doesn't care what you'd like , they give u what you deserved. This is true and it is as solid as the wall in the maze made by God.


Wen Xhin ridicule me at the stock take. His facial expression means he look down on me. I was angry.

Why: He try to change my self-belief that I am important. He try to change it to I am stupid and not important.

And the people who say that I have a good life. That I do not know what real industry is.

And Jay who say that if it is not important, I won't give it to you.

First step is to avoid the trap of getting angry. The second step is to think through whether there is any merit in their derogatory