Principles by Ray Dalio

So life is full of natural law, social law that existed long before you and they are way more powerful than you are.

If you want to achieve what you want, you have to understand how these laws work and deal with it. You need to be realistic

Eg: If you want to do well in exam, you have to understand how people study well, understand the topics covered well.

If you want to achieve something, when you reach your limit, typically you will feel psychological pain. You need to push through the pain. That's how nature tell us that we have reach the limit.

Mistakes are a gem , because it signal that we have encountered a problem. We could get a gem if we successfully solve the problem.

Life is like a maze, full of walls and puzzle. When you encountered a mistake, it means you stumbled upon a wall. So your job is to find ways to overcome/deal with that reality.

People get depressed when they encountered a mistake , maybe they think that the mistake is irreversible. Or they are stuck with that ability for a long time. Your only options is to find a way/solution to solve the problem. because getting emotional doesn't help.



You have to think independently and think for yourself with reasoning. Think with reasons ! Think thoroughly why something should or should not be done.

The way to come out with your own principles is to test it with reality.

I have tested the reality a little bit with my success in studying. The same principles behind it will apply in achieving success with business.


Conclusion: my understanding of the principles is fragmented. Not holistic

We define success as achieving something difficult. Then if we want to achieve something difficult, typically we encounter pain, which is a growing pain. But if you push through the pain, and consistently operate through a level of pain, then that pain will gradually fade away. If you recognize that pain is good, then that become a growing pleasure.


There are a couple of weakness
1. I allow depression, anger to control me
Depression causes you to lose productivity/will to do something and anger makes me unhappy with someone.

Specifics
- If I make someone unhappy, I get depressed
- If someone don't respect me , I get angry
- If someone like another person more than others , I get angry
 + recognize that preference is reality of life. some people will prefer someone else. getting angry means u wish reality is different from it is.
 + recognize that you could increase your relationship with both friends by finding out their behavior/nature and effectively deal with them. But note that you could have an inherent personality that make that person dislike you. But you could significantly improve the chances of the relationship with your friends by understand why the other person is more likable and learn from it.
+ reality is that in order to improve the relationship, you have to understand what the other person is like, then you behave accordingly to what he likes/appreciate.
+ reality is that getting angry will only damage the current relationship with your two friends
+ reality is that the two friends are having a great relationship and you may not match that, for eternity due to an your inherent personality.